The Patrón on Ice Party

January 19, 2016 in Tenacity for Life

People ice skating

They said winter was coming and we said let’s party.*

Ready to add a little extra sparkle to your 2016? Join me and some of my most treasured found-family/friends/loved ones at Patrón on Ice. The evening of Thursday February 4, 2016 will commence with ice skating at the rink just a couple minutes away from my house.

After we’ve all showcased our finest besti squats for our besties we’ll head home together for hot chocolate, hot toddies, warm winter foods and a very extra special series of flavor toasted marshmallows.

We can’t guarantee it will be the best night of your life, but we can most certainly guarantee a hearty belly laugh or five. Be there. There’s literally no better way to spend your night.

Check out the official event page and RSVP today.

*Because, you know, if anyone can battle the white walkers it’s my friends/found-family/loved ones.

I Couldn’t Read Your (Broken) Letters

November 23, 2015 in Tenacity for Life

Lauren Proctor at The Plaza

I knew subconsciously that we were over and so when you sent them in 2014, I couldn’t read your (broken) letters.

Today I finally grabbed the courage to read everything at once. I realize now that there’s so much I didn’t see. So many things I didn’t consider. I knew everything and nothing. All about the way you brush your hair and walk across the floor late at night. So little about the inner workings that scared you.

Had I been braver I would have looked deeper. I would have read your Even Days project the day you sent it. Instead I let your letters sit.

Now I am making all my plans without you. Trying not to consider what you would have liked or even what you would have thought. Life goes on without the people we love. Sometimes it takes more time than we’d like to admit to realize it. But we continue, and then find life anew.

It All Culminated in This Idea

September 12, 2015 in Digital Nomad, Startup Founder, Tenacity for Life

I believe that in the future more and more people will work for themselves. Many of these indivuals will use the Internet to create location independent businesses. This creates a landscape where anyone can literally work and live anywhere. Some of these people are becoming digital nomads who work while traveling the world. Others just enjoy the liberty of being able to earn a living on their terms.

Problem is, taking the plunge can be scary. A lot of people have an idea but they don’t know what to do or where to start. Or maybe they are already freelancing but they want to figure out how to turn their work into a more sustainable business?

I want to help these people make it happen.
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In Seoul: Blown Away

September 11, 2015 in Digital Nomad, Tenacity for Life

I realize today that we don’t have much time. Time to look at the mountains, to smell home cooked food as it wafts down the block to where we’re sitting. Time to let things sink in or to feel everything. These moments will be gone quickly and all that will be left are the people and things we felt them for.

I’m sitting on the rooftop of a fourth story coffeeshop with big open windows. It feels like I’m in a Jeep Wrangler with the doors and top popped off. All those extra parts (the sides of the car and the roof) are off somewhere sitting in someone’s garage. There’s structure around me but for the most part I feel free from the typical confines of buildings. Covered but not, like the outdoor-acceptable version of naked on the go.
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I Saw Shooting Stars Every Time I Was With You in the Night

August 27, 2015 in Tenacity for Life

perseid meteor showers

We met just before the Perseid Meteor showers and I fell in love with you when they peaked.

Not long after we met I lost a mother figure. I pulled out my phone when we separated for the night and read the text. All I wanted was you. Somehow you had service even though you were already underground and you came back to meet me. I remember sitting on a ledge at the edge of a building, crying. You beside me, patient and warm.
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Heartfelt

August 19, 2015 in Tenacity for Life

Dear The Person Whom I Will Marry,

Maybe we get married, maybe we don’t. But you’ll know what I mean by that. Since this is public-facing I guess I’d better make that a little more accurate…

Dear The Person Who Will Share With Me a Beloved Infatuation For Life and Each Other. Dear Endlessly Ambitious But Totally Attuned Individual Who Is Committed And Stubborn But Flexible And Understanding,

Verana Hotel

I’m just going to come out and say it. This is where I want you to ask me to marry you. Or maybe this is where I want us to get married.

Or as I mentioned before it doesn’t have to be married per se. It could just be a trip you find for us because you understand the importance of inspiration. Or maybe on a whim you want to look into my eyes for a long time in a jungle house we’ll always remember. Or maybe it’s a huge party we pay for our friends to attend as an expression of love and commitment for an expanded life (partially because we found each other).

While I’m making corrections, it actually doesn’t have to be this place at all. But again, you know what I mean. It has to be a place like this.

Rare, daring, imagined, handmade, cultivated, one of a kind.

Yeah, that sounds about right.

I love you already,
Lauren Proctor Handwriting

 

On Hitting Reset and Becoming a Digital Nomad

June 13, 2015 in Tenacity for Life

A few days ago I wrote what might be my most revealing post yet. If you haven’t read it, feel free to click here and do so. If you prefer the tl;dr version, I’ll give you the gist: Just when I thought I had everything together it all fell apart. Within a matter of weeks my cruising-along-just-fine life turned into catastrophe.

Not “I lost my health or a loved one” catastrophe, but the regular kind you can’t really admit to because it’s so normal. I struggled before pressing publish, but ultimately decided to share. I don’t think enough people talk about the hard parts of being a thirty-ish year old tech person who lives in a big city and wants to do things like find love and have a family (whatever that might look like).

So here I sit today, writing my way out of the rubble. Here are a few lessons I’ve learned along the way.
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A Lesson on Growing Up

June 11, 2015 in Tenacity for Life

At first I thought everything was falling apart (Chinua Achebe style). It started with an audit letter. I’d forgotten to list one of my freelance gigs in my earnings and owed thousands of dollars to the IRS. The next day I received a rent increase. The week after that the startup I was working for collapsed. I got laid off alongside some of my closest colleagues.
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